DarioKehl: I can so relate to your not wanting others to think badly of you. I was also like that big time! Notice I said was...It took time but I finally came to the point of not giving a rat's a$$ about what other people think. It is natural to want people to think well of us. For me it was self-esteem issues and I bent over backward to be liked. Trust me, their opinion of you isn't worth putting yourself through this kind of anguish. It takes time and counselling can be effective at helping us build self-esteem. It is not a sin to think of your own well-being. Your feeling are as important as anyone else. As far as gossip goes, let it slide off your back and try not to lose sleep over it. There will always be gossipers no matter what you do. Leslie
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Does This Happen to You? I Need Help :/
by DarioKehl inhey guys.... i have a few important questions for everyone.
this applies to doubters, faders, inactive, dfed or seasoned apostates.
first, let me set it up:.
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Grieving=Guilt in JW World
by nuthouse escapee ini lost both of my parents many years ago while in the organization.
i can remember the scripture being used that says we do not grieve on as the rest do.
(been so long i can't remember where it is).
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Rip, & Kojack: Thank you for finding the scripture, that is the one I was speaking about. As someone pointed out it doesn't say not to grieve. Typical guilt trip from misapplication of scripture. I wonder just how long of a grieving period is acceptable in their view. Heartless bunch!
DataDog: As some of the posters say, " Can you feel the love?". That was such an insensitive thing to say to your friend. So much for the love amongst the brotherhood.
Wha Happened: yes, self-righteous crap
Theocratic Sedition: It is very sad to have the Wt. take away a normal reaction to loss. As you said...they can't remember what natural emotional reactions are. We have also seen this countless times with the treatment of disfellowshipped family members.
Satanus: I thought it was only my observation but obviously others have seen it as well. We are not alone!
Outlaw: I have been at a few of those funerals where you could have sworn it was a party. I have seen the reaction of worldly relatives cringe at the poor taste and lack of respect being displayed. Although we don't have to look dour there is a time and place for everything and I don't believe it is a time for frivolity. What ever happened to dignified behaviour.
Perfect1: Thank you.
So much for Jehovah's dignified people! I truly believe that by not reacting "normally" to loss is more of an anti-witness to those observing the bizarre type of memorial and behavior. -Leslie-
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Grieving=Guilt in JW World
by nuthouse escapee ini lost both of my parents many years ago while in the organization.
i can remember the scripture being used that says we do not grieve on as the rest do.
(been so long i can't remember where it is).
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So true Wha Happened?
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Thinking of changing my life/ long rant
by DATA-DOG ini want to drastically change my life.
i am stagnating and will eventually drive my truck into an oncoming semi truck.
short of faking my death there are only so many things i can do.
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Meditating with a brew in hand, sets the stage for major reflecting. lol Leslie
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Grieving=Guilt in JW World
by nuthouse escapee ini lost both of my parents many years ago while in the organization.
i can remember the scripture being used that says we do not grieve on as the rest do.
(been so long i can't remember where it is).
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I lost both of my parents many years ago while in the organization. I can remember the scripture being used that says we do not grieve on as the rest do. (been so long I can't remember where it is)
I was 17 when my mom died (40 when my Dad passed) and there we sat, dry-eyed, so as not to give a bad witness to worldly family. Somehow, to show signs of grieving displayed that our hope in the resurrection wasn't strong and was perhaps a sign of weak faith therefore reflecting poorly on the JW beliefs. We were expected to be different. More like weird!
Anyone else experience anything similar while a dub? I see now how totally screwed up that is. Leslie
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Letter From Whitney's Mother
by breakfast of champions injust saw this on google news.
link to letter here.. .
dear family, i want to tell you that although this has been the worst of my lifes tribulations, that i am still standing.. the obvious reason is that jehovah is the faithful keeper of promises holding to his word that never, would his great love allow his precious children to be tested beyond what we could bear.
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BoC, good observation. I wonder how many from the community will show up for the funeral talk. I think it does more harm than good when the funeral is basically just another talk. I know my mom's worldly family were not impressed by my mom's funeral. Leslie
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Watchtower Corporation enters new business to help sheeples see that the end is very, very near!
by Billy the Ex-Bethelite inmy dad heard from the co who heard from a do that heard from his brother-in-law that heard from the friend of a governing body's wife, that the gb is getting very concerned that "the friends" are losing sight of the nearness of the panda-petting paradise.
many of these friends are also looking too critically at the "spiritual food" provided by the "faithful slave class.".
don't tell anyone else, but i hear that the gb has begun testing something new on some of the sheeple.
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ROFLMAO Thanks so much Billy, that is just too funny and made my day. Leslie
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long time study
by happy-n-alive inso i am 20 now and i had my first study when i was 14. no jehovahs witness relatives and i am currently in my second book with one more chapter to go.
the reason it took so long is because it started out very sporadic andd short.
anyways, a friend and i were talking and i said i dont think i want to get baptise anytime soon and she said they may want to 'see a return on their investment' -_- so my question is if any witnesses ever got pushy with you about taking the next step after you have studied with them a long time.
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Welcome. Do not feel guilt if you decide to end your study. Why you may ask? The reason is that the ones studying with you are benefitting from being able to count the time they spend studying with you, on a little slip of paper collected at the end of the month. To a JW this beats knocking on doors and is what is considered "easy time".
Happy and Alive, you may as well change your name to Miserable and Half-dead, because that is how you will feel after you are baptized and realize all the rules that will suck the life out of you.
Please thoroughly research everything about this religion from outside unbiased sources. I wasted 48 years of my life as a JW. Leslie
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Returning to school at age 45
by irondork innot the university, mind you... just taking some classes so i can spend the last 20 years of my secular life doing something other than golf course irrigation.
a fellow at the golf course has talked me in to getting my real estate license.. .
so, off to school i go.
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May the Great Gazoo be with you. lol
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Letter From Whitney's Mother
by breakfast of champions injust saw this on google news.
link to letter here.. .
dear family, i want to tell you that although this has been the worst of my lifes tribulations, that i am still standing.. the obvious reason is that jehovah is the faithful keeper of promises holding to his word that never, would his great love allow his precious children to be tested beyond what we could bear.
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I feel very sorry for Whitney's mother. The shock that comes from a horrible tragedy like this can numb the emotions for a time. I experienced the same thing when my mother passed. It is a crutch that interrupts the grieving process and it eventually catches up with you later. As another poster mentioned, it is not healthy. -Leslie-